We say all the time that you should be yourself.
Don’t change for anybody or anything.
Just be yourself.
But who are we really? Aren’t we just the sum of our experiences, a conglomeration of changes we’ve made? Some conscious, some unconscious? I mean, even deciding to take your next breath is a decision you’re making, even if your body is automatically making it for you. You have the autonomy to choose otherwise. And each breath is causing minuscule changes in your body’s chemical makeup.
Some changes sort of just happen to us more than we choose to make them happen. Like how a traumatic experience such as the loss of a loved one or an abusive experience changes who we fundamentally are. But they’re all still changes nonetheless.
So what makes some changes considered things that turn us into phonies or posers, while others are just considered personal growth or collateral damage? If a person chooses that they want to change how they manifest their personality by changing a clothing style or hanging out with an entirely different crowd, how is that different from if a person chooses to continue wearing the same clothing style or to continue taking part in a particular hobby. At what point do we identify or become ourselves?
Where does the core of our persona lie?
In some super secret sequence of our genetic code?
In the most inner reaches of what some might call the soul?
Who are we really?
Aren’t we all just constantly changing beings who are always in flux?
Or is there an essential part of us that never changes? A solid constant that we must stay true to?
Who exactly are you? Do you know?
Your Fellow Identity Crisis,